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Q: im 14 and ok im kind of a prude and believe no sex before marriage and you should wait for someone special before going out with them... especially when you're young... and my best friend is turning into a hoe. she got her first boyfriend, and i was reaally happy for her, but then on their first date they made out, and other people were around. they werent even going out for a week, and they didnt even kiss normally before that. then she wanted me to grind with her at the last dance, and i was like NOOO. i would only grind with a guyyy and if i had been going out with him for a while.
i know this is how like old people think, but i want a guy who cares about me, not just a guy that wants to do stuff with my body. and i dont care if i wait for that. but my friend is alwayss bringing up her bf and its soo annoying. she hasnt been a good friend for the past year either, although she says im her bff... shes been ditching me for her other group of friends a lot, but hangs out with me mostly in schol.
i am really sick of her and im afraid shes going to do something that she regrets... should i keep being friends with her, try to help her, or ignore those problems?
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i think, that the best way to learn is from expirience. im pretty sure, if you tell your friend to do something she doesnt want to do, itll only push her away, even if you ARE trying to help. i doubt shell realize what your intentions are. shell want to find out for herself
and continue to act the way she does until something bad does happen. and once something bad does happen, shell react to it more because its not a scenerio, its for real. and shell know what to do if it ever happens again.
there are also alot of different types of people, some people make out with there bf/gf's on the first date, and others dont. you dont have to worry about it, at least shes not hooking up with people she barely knows.
you know that when i had my first bf, we didnt kiss normally until about a month of dating, but we made out alot before that. so its definatly normal.
i think maybe this new group of friends might be her influence for acting the way she does. and if your worried about her, you should stay friends with her. because im sure the way your thinking, believe it or not, is also influencing her to not be such a slut.(she really isnt) so if you stopped being friends with her she would probably turn more to the other group, and she could get worse.
the reason she hasnt totally turned into a slut is because she wants to be accepted b both sets of friends, everyone just wwants to fit in, and her changing more twords the slutty side than she was beofre is her way of conforming to them. but not going totally is her way of staying by you.
so your definatly a good influence on her.
so in short, she needs you as a friend, to keep her not totally slutty, and you should let her do her own thing. because you always will influence her whether you realize it or not.
hope i helped xo
-kelly
*edit* unless she might get pregnant or something, THEN you stop her lol
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yeah, her new group is influencing her, & youre totally right. but if someone else does what she did, she'd be saying that they're a whore or something... oh well, thanks
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