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My best friend can't stand to be single. She just moved to a new city for a job, so I know she is kind of lonely but she is fallen in with a guy who was fooling around with her very heavily while he was still with his girlfriend of two years. When I went to visit her a few weeks ago he didn’t exactly make a good impression on me. I was there for three days and I never saw him sober, I saw him give a lap dance to two other girls and cuddle with another, and although I was friendly and trying to get to know him better he didn't just ignore me, he was flat out rude to me. I have a hard time to believe he'd treat the best friend so shabbily (or do all the other jackassy things I saw him do) if he was really serious about her.

Now whenever I talk to her all she ever wants to talk about is how wonderful he is or bad-mouth his girlfriend. I'm sick to death of hearing her swoon over this awful guy and bad mouth the girl he is cheating on! Of course she is suspicious and needy. I wonder why she’d feel that way? Maybe because he is cheating on her!

My friend says I’m not being supportive of her and that if I can’t just be happy for her she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. Is there anyway I can let her know that I don't have a problem with her being happy with this guy but I'm not going to lie and pretend he is prince charming when he clearly isn't? Also, how can I explain to her that bad mouthing the girl he is cheating on with her is just plain rotten and bitchy?

I’m not very impressed with her right now, but she is still my friend...

Just tell her all of this. She may not understand now, but in a while she will find out about him, and she'll forgive you and realize you were looking out for her best interest. Sometimes things have to get bad before they can get better

-DD

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(Rating: 3) I have told her all this. That is why she no longer wishes to speak to me.
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