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well, i'm 15 and i'm definitely not having sex before marriage. me and bf are sure of that and are strong with our beliefs.
but for me, i'm little lost on some things. i would just like to be a little bit smarter with the subject.

1st - is ejaculation (for both guys and girls)good or bad? is it gross? does it get on anything?

2nd - what are orgasms for? what do they do? why do people always ask about them?

3rd - what is "popping the cherry"? is it bad? is it something to watch out for? does it hurt?

4th - and when i am married i'm a little afraid to have sex because a lot of people say it can and can't hurt and girls can always can get pregnant. is there anything to really be afraid of? what is there to really watch out for?

5th - how well do condoms work? would condoms work everytime we would have sex?

thanx for answering...

1.- Ejaculation isn't really good/bad. When a boy ejaculates, that's when he's had an orgasm (refer to next number lol). Girls do it ocassionaly, but not every time they orgasm. Yes, it can get on things. A girl gets pregnant from a boy ejaculating in her. Ejactulation can also get on basically anything. Ex. other body parts, the bed, the couch, clothes, etc. haha

2.- Orgasm are basically when you're messing around/masturbating, the release of sexual tension. They provide sexual pleasure and they feel good. People probably ask about them all the time because they like the feeling of them.

3.- Popping your cherry is the breaking of the hymen. It's a thin layer of "skin" that's I think in the vagina. It's not bad that you break it, because every girl does it at one point or another. Sometime you don't even know when you break it. You can break it while you're running, biking, using a tampon, or engaging in sexual activities. Just because you popped your cherry doesn't label you as a slut. It doesn't have to be related to anything sexual at all. I don't even know when I broke mine but I know that it's broken because I use tampons. So personally, it didn't hurt for me.


4.- Even if there is a form of birth control, there's always the tiny tiny percent chance of pregnancy. Condoms guarentee to work 99.9% of the time, because sometimes people don't use them correctly or they break/slip off, and companies don't want to be held accountable for guaranteeing no risks of pregnancy. Same with birth control and other contraceptives. If you're afraid to have sex, that means that you're not quite ready. There's a lot of things to watch out for, such as pregnancy and STDs. You just have to be careful. Yes, it can hurt for some girls, and for other girls no. It really depends & varies from person to person.

5.- Condoms work 99.9% of the time, if used correctly. If you use them correctly, then they should work well.


Hope I helped. :)

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