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Hey. I'm 13/f, he's 12/m. This kid has had a crush on me, a really bad one, since the beginning of this school year. [It's two weeks until the end.. :D!] But he really likes me, and he flirts with me A LOT and he's nice to me and everything but it gets really annoying. I don't like him, I just like the attention that I get from him. But as for his actualy personality, there's nothing besides a friendship there. I told him like 6 times that I don't like him, never have, and never will. (in nicer ways than that obviously). And my friends have told him. He just won't quit.

What should I do!? PLEASE HELP ME!

Hi, thanks for your question.

You told the guy that you didn't like him, and your friends have told him too. You said that you like the attention, but you don't like him. This could be sending confusing messages, so I would suggest that you make up your mind. Since you don't like him, you should give up the attention.

Have you told him that you don't like the attention you are getting from him? Try this, and if after you have told him, he still continues to flirt, you should report him for sexual harassment. It sounds harsh, but you told him you didn't feel the same way, and once you told him that you don't like the attention, you will have cleared away the confusion. Therefore, there would be no excuse for him continuing the behavior.

Does your school have an anonymous reporting system? In my old school, it was called the Bully Box, and in it you would put the name of the person who was bothering you, and maybe what they were doing. Teachers would watch out for them and see if they do anything wrong. If not, maybe you could tell your parents or guidance counselor, or you could have your friends do it for you. Either way, get an adult involved. You have tried the best you could to handle the problem and it still won't go away. And because of the Title IX law, sexual harassment is not allowed.

Don't worry about getting him into trouble. He might not be meaning to hurt you, and someone may just talk to him and get him to realize that you seriously don't want him bothering you anymore (and realize that you aren't playing hard-to-get, if that was what he was thinking). This could be what he needs to stop.

Good luck with everything, and write back if you have more questions. :)

-Hannah

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(Rating: 5) Hey. Thanks for your advice! Yeah, my school does have a bullying system. I could just tell them, but first I will tell him that I don't feel the same way, I just like the attention that he is giving me, but I will tell him that I don't like him and to stop. Thanks so much! I was thinking about whether or not it was sexual harrasment, but I thought I might being too harsh. Anyways, Thanks so much, you really helped me a lot.
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