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Hey everyone! My name is Michelle and I'm fifteen, sixteen in a month! I'm a junior in high school. I've been in too many relationships, and I'm finally taking a break from boys. I'm a dancer and bowler. Ask me anything :) Thats why I'm here.xoxo, Michelle
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Can people with REAL relationship experience please answer? People that have been in serious relationships that lasted more than a few months? Thanks.
I'm 17/f and he's 21/m. We've been together since July 5th of 2005. It's the first serious relationship each of us has had.
Everthing was going wonderfully between us until the beginning of this year. We fought over stupid things. I kept getting really angry with him because he wouldn't go get a job and all he cared about was playing his computer and video games. He IS in college though and is going for internet security, so that was a good thing. Most of the time we worked through whatever problems we might have had, though. I really got better at respecting his hobbies and such. Plus he finally has a job now. Okay.
Lately though, I just feel like I don't want to be around him because I know it will be boring or he'll just make me angry in some shape or form. I don't want to hang out with just him because I know we'll just sit around and be bored because there's nothing to do.
Whenever he calls to say goodnight or something, sometimes I don't even pick up the phone because there's nothing to talk about or I don't even want to talk to him.
The point I'm getting to is that I think I might be falling out of love with him. I don't know if maybe it's because I see him too much or what, but I see our relationship more as really best friends instead of loving boyfriend and girlfriend. I know I care about him because I would never want him out of my life.
So my question is, how do I fall back in love with him? How do I make our relationship more fun and loving? We've been together for nearly two years and I can't figure out a way to keep things as lively as they were the first few months we went out.
At this point, I'm not sure a "break" would work for us because I'm going to college in the fall. If we took a break, that would be it and I know we'd be done. So that's a last resort.
I know that deep down, some part of me needs to stay with him and keep loving him because I'm asking this question. I want to find that part of me and bring it out. I want to be just as much in love with this man as I was the first time I told him.
Any advice?
This has happened in many of the relationships I've been in. You feel kind of, unsure and confused. Part of you wants to stay with him and love him, but the other wants something different.
Sometimes, you fall out of love with a person and you dont have any control over that. The only thing you can do is think about it. Everything you guys have gone through, and if its truely what you want to work at then stay with him. But if your still unsure, I would let things go. You could be wasting your time with him, and letting something even better pass you by.
Listen to your heart, and talk things out with him. Tell him how you feel, he might feel the same way and you guys can go from there.
Good Luck.
(Rating: 4) Great advice. Thank you!