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So, my best friend has liked a guy for like.. a year, I think. From what she says, he's nicer to her than his other friend-girls, and he's really funny. The thing is, I know he's pervarded. I dont think he's ever really done anything with anyone, but I'm scared that if my friend gets together with him, he'll try something. I mean,she said that if he did, she'd end it immediatly, but is there a way to change guys like that, or what? He's not the most sensetive kid, so I was just wondering (mainly from the opionion of guys of girls who have dated guys like this) if this is easy to deal with? My friend kinda even feels bad about liking him now.


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I assume you mean that he is "perverted". Please employ a spellchecker so we can know for certain what you're saying.

In any event, I have to wonder how you come by this information. You say he hasn't ever really done anything, so what do you base your assessment on? Are you sure you're being fair to him?

Also, what exactly do you mean by the word? If you mean that he's a pedophile or something, then by all means avoid him like the plague, but if you mean that he just makes suggestive jokes or something, then he's just a little immature. That being the case, it's certainly possible that he'll change, and if your friend wants to take on that challenge, she can do so.

It seems that you've already told her your concerns and she's accepted them as your opinion. Frankly, that's where your involvement ends; any more and you're officially butting in to things that are not your business. Whether she goes out with him now is her choice; though, if she feels "bad about liking him", I'd recommend she didn't. He doesn't deserve a girlfriend who is going to feel guilty or dirty about dating him.


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Your grammar and all is really good, but your answer wasn't very informative. You don't seem to answer my question very well, just suggest things. Thanks, anyways.




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