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Q: My mom gets drunk at least twice a week, sometimes up to 4 times a week. Today she is drunk. Tomorrow is my 17th birthday, so I got the mail to see if I received anything, and I did, but I hate opening presents early.
I went to the bathroom and when I came out, the envelopes and package had been opened by my mom and she asked if I wanted to open them tonight.
I don't know what to do..I really don't like her right now. Opening my gifts for my birthday is ruined because of her. I've told my mom's parents and her sister about her getting drunk, and they've all talked to her. She won't stop. She says she's getting help every week..it isn't helping.
What do I do about her and my birthday? :(
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you have to be persistant.
a few years ago my mom used to be drunk literally every night; and she was rarely home.
but she finally went to AA and got help.
My older brother and sister and i just told her over and over again how much she was hurting us.
You need to make it clear to her that her drinking effects everyone in your house and family; her sister, possibly your siblings, everyone. Ask her to please go to AA or a physcatrist; if she is already going; ask her to go more.
I will tell you from experience; if she doesnt get help and break the habit; it will get worse from one week to three times a week to everyday. And at that point it's very hard to break it.
Tell her you love her, and you know that she loves you; but she is hurting you a lot, and you hate seeing her drunk. I found it effective to talk to my mom while she was sober and drunk; get in both sides of her mind. (Although if your mother is angry when she is drunk i would suggest not being alone with her; just to be 100% safe; because when drunk you never know what someone will do)
Just tell her over and over you love her and care about her. It WILL take awhile. it WILL take time. It WILL take effort from you; your mother; and all involved. it will also take patience; this cannot be solved over night; trust me i went through years with my mother because i didnt have the strenght to ask her to stop. it will take much more then one conversation; it will be hard; lots of fights and lots of tears. But leaving it a lone is worse.
Obviously you cannot force her into AA or consuling; but she DOES need it to get better.
Good luck with everything; if you need help with anything else; or just someone to vent to from an outside source; just send me a message on here.
Hope everything works out!
AuntieEm
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Hey! I'm Em, my friend Tori got one of these, so i decided to check it out, and got OBBESSED! i am always giving my friends advice, so please, ask away, and i will do my best to help!
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