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im 15/m my sister is 13. we kinda get along. im the sporty kinda guy who always has a gf. shes the freaky gothic girl that never had a bf. her bff is a guy. our mom wont let her dress how she always has anymore now our mom hates all her friends. mom wont let my sister wear anything dark or gothic. my sister is going crazy shes cussing out and flipping off people ALOT at home but also quiet and says about 3 words the whole time unless shes out of the house or with her friends then is loud and crazy. shes never had a bf but alot of guy friends. she loves her bff and he loves her but she turned him down? shes very violent and going real rebelious more than ever. and our mom wont let her go over her bffs(a guy)house anymore. so she says shes going with her other friends but most of the time is going with him places. our mom hates all her friends anyway. my sister leaves the house dressed normal then she puts on her black hoodie and jewelry. you never know what shes thinking about it scares me? we dont talk that much but we still do i guess. i took and read her diary i know thats bad but i wana help her. her diary was filled with all that stuff then also disturbing drawings and poems and storys all about dark stuff hate and death. i wana help her without taking to our mom or anyone else just between me her and her friends would help. list all i could do for her to help her and change it.
shes turnin violent~ rebelious~ sneaky~ dark hearted~ just seems very desturbed more than anyone i have ever met~ cusses more than she talks at home and gets grounded everytime. but is still freaky and outgoing with her friends just happy but still gothic. i reeeealy need help soon before she kills herself. in her diary she said she might! and she has the nerve to do it..
ok first of all when and if you do talk to her dont mention anything that isnt too obvious that you read in her diary, thats the worst thing you could do. but first study her actions and see if there is anything unusual, i know you have, but study them more becasue you never know. maybe you should ask her to talk with you, but start off not saying you need to change, but something more like im concerned, is anything wrong, or something like that. I was actually kind of like that for a short period of time, didnt last long but i was like that, i did overcome it but it seems that this is the way she wants to be. If she answer to you first question'im concerened, is anything wrong' sorta thing, just wait untill she is ready, and if shes not right away, you really should give her time. But not too much time, becasue then she might think everyone is gagning up on her and ,aybe think something is going on. So you might also want to let her know that this is becasue you really care about her and has NOTHING to do with wut your mom says or wants, its between you two, and because its you conerned, and you love her and dont want anyting to happen to her. LIke you said she does seem happy with her freinds so dont try to make her stop being happy the way she is, but really try to get her to say if she is happy at home or not. wait until she asnwers any of this, becasue if she really doesnt know why she does it, then it might be a faze[[spelling??]] or just the person she is. try to get her to tell you why she is violent, most of the time it is the home life and theres nuthing you can do unless she tells you and then if it is, you finally BOTH should go and talk to you mom and tell her how you really dont think all these restrictions are helping her. but if you really dont feel like doing that then that is fine, everyone is sumtimes afraid to consult with parents, i know i am! but you really should try to get through to her and just need to find out what is wrong, that may lead to other questions and other answers[[13 year olds are also emotional, so she might cry, but you really should give her that shoulder to cry on]], if at all anything that was in her diary comes up, never mention you looked in her diary, it would be better not to lie, but its also good to have you sisters trust. i hope that helped. Plus with the boyfriend thing, dont worry a lot of girls dont have boyfriends untill there much older. i know ive never had a serious relationship because im not totallly ready, i ma now but people take time, and people are different, she might not want a boyfriend. and if she doesnt like boys, dont get mad, it might be a reason for a lot of what she has been doing. so just take that advice and i really hope it works. this is a really hard thing to go through and i know its hard. just remind her you love her and your concerned[[and you mom wasnt part of this]] i really do hope that helpss[[that was long sry]]
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(Rating: 5) she has no other emotion as in crying she maks it all into violence she canot cry at all my mom even brought her to her doctor and she just cant cry should i let her go on with violence or what fight back or not becaus if i dont fight back she could seriosly hurt me and im one of the biggest football players and im scared of my sister