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I've heard that guys like it when a girl isn't always available to go out.. when he calls, for example, she's not always available to go out, or at least pretends not to be. WHat's your opinion on this?
"Hard to Get..." Is just a game. I've never been into games... And most of the guys that I have dated appreciated my ability to be direct and honest. Several even stated that they found my approach to be "refreshing."
Really... When you're dating... They key is not to appear desperate. Why? Because being desperate is often associated with being overly needy and emotionally unstable. When a guy meets a girl and he picks up on the desperate vibe, he automatically thinks, "Psycho-chick."
A girl that isn't desperate is capable of taking care of herself. She doesn't need his approval or his permission. She has a life of her own. She may want him to be a part of her life, but she will never make him the center of her universe. For example, the non-desperate chick does not wait by the phone, and she does not put her life on hold for him. If her friends want to have a girls night out and she makes plans... And at the last minute her guy decides he wants to see her, NDC will say, "I'm sorry. I'd love to spend time with you but I've all ready made plans with my friends tonight." A desperate chick would ditch her friends to spend time with aforementioned guy. A non-desperate chick would just reschedule.... Because hey, her man's important... but so are her friends.
So... My advice is... Don't worry about playing hard to get or acting like someone that you aren't. Just be you. :D Because really... YOU are who he's dating, YOU are who he's trying to get to know... YOU can not hide who YOU are... He's going to figure out who YOU are eventually. And if he doesn't like YOU... He's a loser and doesn't deserve you. Rejection may hurt... But rest assured that just because one moron doesn't like you, doesn't mean there aren't plenty of other guys out there that think YOU are perfect just the way YOU are. And those are the guys that YOU want to be with. So... Go find that guy. Don't waste your time with the losers.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! Your advice is very useful