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I'm in love with a grown man, sometimes it feels as though he may like me too, but I can't do much about it because he's one of my teachers and I just found out he was married while overhearing a conversation he was having with someone else... he's never mentioned it to me... but I love him, and this hurts and being around him hurts and i can't stop thinking about him and he's such a sweet guy and we get along great.. i've tried avoiding him, but that messes up my whole day and I feel like shit. What can I do?

19/f

Again... I agree with Abby.

You may think it's love but I seriously doubt it. I can understand how you might mistake what you are feeling for love... Because sometimes even infatuation can feel very intense as well as painful. But whether you love him or you're just experiencing a bad case of infatuation... The hurt will pass. You will love someone else.

If you care about him at all... You will NOT initiate anything. Besides the fact that he is your teacher and could possibly lose his job if anyone found out that if you were involved... Think of his wife. You would hurt her by becoming involved with him, wouldn't you? Is that really what you want? To hurt a person you don't even know... To endanger his job as well as his marriage?

I'm a big fan of the clean break. I understand that you might not be able to do that since he is your teacher... But if you can't make a clean break, at least avoid spending time with him outside of class. I know it hurts now... But that will pass.

Focus on your school work, your hobbies, your friends... Start dating guys that are available. Chances are that once you become involved with someone else you'll realize that the feelings you have for this man aren't as deep as you initially thought they were.

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(Rating: 5) thanks for being honest!!! ill take your advice
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