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**I hit my boyfriend yesterday, i didnt mean to hit him that hard. I slapped him in the face really hard, left a mark, plus it was really loud.
**I did it out of anger and surprise, we've been going out forever, but it really was stupid of me to overreact that way.
**He called me fat- kinda, he used the word "plump" which i hate.

**So, I was really pissed for a while and after school I realized that he was too. Instead of stopping where we usually do to hang out, he sped up kinda walking in front of me and didnt hold my hand. Then he looked back and saw that i was hur and was all sweet and comforting, but somehow I was still mad him.

**On the phone, he said that he was only joking and that I took him too seriously. I said I was sorry today.

**I've been in a really bad abusive realtionship before and its nothing like the way I treat my boyfriend, sometimes he'll say "You're abusive" and it really makes me mad because Im weaker and hardly ever hit him. My ex used to punch, kick, cut, and rape me, so slapping my boyfriend a few times when he's being a jerk doesnt phase me as abuse.

Today: He was working and its my little bros 6th bday. I was really busy when he called on his break to talk to me, he could tell I was busy, it was loud and there was a lot of commotion so he was like "you sound busy." and I told him I was and had to go he said "OK" but sounded kinda mad about it. So iwas like bye, Ilove you, but all I heard was a click. I know he didnt hear me say Bye and I love you or he would have responded. But he didnt say bye or I love you to me like he ALWAYS does.

***So, finally, here's my question: How do I get out of this "abusive" cycle, and is it really abusive? Do you think he's still mad at me, he's the best thing ive ever had and i never want to lose or hurt him.

I guess you are a bit abusive and there a ways of dealing with it.You've been through sooo much before,with being raped and stuff, that's where you've picked it up,does your current bf know about this??Explain to him and tell him you do love him,it's just your worried your going to lose him and your just so upset because of your previous relationship.If your angry just take some breaths and get stress ball,keep a blog and diary and get that stress out.

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