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ok so i need a little help getting myslef on the right path. im only a freshman in highschool. but its right now where you decide your future. and i really dont have any idea what i want to do with my life.. there are many things i am interested in. but im not sure what would really be the best for me. i really want to spend the rest of my life doing something i reallly love. and not something thats just ok.

ok some of the things i think about are fashion design, be a part of some kind of modeling agency.
be a hair stylist. make up artist, just do that kind of stuff. i am reallly creative and im willing to try new things. i also have another side of me i always wanted to be a psychologist.
and then there is the photographer, and graphic designer.
see i go through like these phases first i wanted to be a fashion designer for the longest time. then like graphic designer then psychologist and now its back in the fashion direction. and im really looking for a path that includes all these things. i want to be able to travel and meet new people and just have a good job. any ideas on what career path i should take?
im also a really good writer, but i dont really like it.

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Anyone who told you that your freshman year in high school is where you "decide your future" didn't have a clue what they were talking about.

You CAN'T decide your future. No one knows what the future brings. This is not to say that you shouldn't make plans or get educated, but be aware that what you decide now may have NO bearing at all on what you do. Take me, for instance - I have a job where I work with computer networks and software applications that didn't even exist when I was in high school. At the time, I wanted to be an English teacher.

It sounds to me like there's a common thread running through all your potential career choices, and that is that you like to create beautiful, appealing things that will stir positive emotions in people and satisfy their sense of aesthetics. My guess is that part of your interest in psychology has to do with being able to figure out what makes people tick so that you can make things that will be appreciated and admired and that people will understand. I would definitely say that some kind of design field would be appropriate for you.

Most design-type jobs are highly sought after because a lot of people like to do that sort of thing. Therefore, if you want to be successful in that area, you will need to really be good at it. You will need to have a diverse background that will include things like cultural studies, geometry, psychology, and art history. A little practical computer knowledge probably wouldn't hurt either, since so much of the design process (any kind of design) is now done digitally. Apply what you learn to your life in simple ways; even arranging the furniture and decor in your own bedroom can be a way to learn about what works and what doesn't.

Generalize now, and focus later. You may eventually discover that the field you want to enter doesn't even exist yet (maybe you'll be a Virtual-Reality Environment Designer, for instance) and so it's pointless to focus on one thing right now. High school is about laying the groundwork.


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wow. thank you soo much. this reallly helped A LOT.




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