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Q: hey...well my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a couple of months now and we were doing really well...now we've been through a whole lot and we pretty much know how it is with each other...it hasnt been so great...it seems that ive been the only one putting in effort into the relationship and he says himself that he doesnt care about most things...i changed some things about myself for him but when it comes to him its like he doesnt even try...i would say everything on here that happens but theres way too many things that go on...it seems like now its comming to an end and at the same time ive learned a lot from it...i talked to him last night and he said that he doesnt think we're right for each other...i couldnt bear with what he was saying i felt so hurt but he wants to wait a little longer just to see if it gets anyt better all but i dont know how long that'll last and i dont know if i should wait...i need some advice on how to get over him...ive stayed up all night for weeks with this...missed school...cant concentrate..i cant let him go i just cant see him with another girl it hurts too much...and i dont know if i should end it...i know i should but i cant...thanks for anyone who tries to help i really appreciate it...

17/f
this is probably hard to hear, but hes not right for you.
you have to get over him.
if he says stuff that hurts you or stuff that makes you upset then hes not the right guy for you. you need someone who will put as much effort into the relationship as you do. the fact that he doesnt care about alot of things says something, that means he might not care about you the same way you care about him.
i went through the same situation, and i really thought i loved him. but he always made it clear he didnt care about anything. and at times he was the sweetest guy in teh world, but in the end he was just an ass hole.
thats how this guy may end up. so id suggest leaving him now.
cause if not, hell break up with you, and it will end in you crying, alot.
if hes making you miss school, and you cant concentrate, than hes deffinatly not a benefactor to your life.
there are no good ways to get over people, but to get them out of your head. stop think ing about it, dont even think of the bad things, dont think of the good.
just try and stop caring, youll move on eventually maaybe in a couplar weeks you can get over it.
but it will take a while.
so give it time, and dont think about it and you should be fine.

thanks so much

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