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OK so I was friends with my bff who i've been bffs with since i was 5, and now i'm 13/f
but at the beginning of this year the schools merged & we met this girl lindsay. I HATE HER SO MUCH! first we started hanging out with these girls molly & kayla who turned out to be pretending to be our friends the whole time! *hate them too* that's what lindsay told us. so then we turned out being bffs with lindsay until the point where me and kristen (my other EX-bff) got tired of the drama. lindsay is ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT THE POPULAR GIRLS & HOW JEALOUS SHE IS & HOW THEY backstab each other, when she doesn't realize SHE'S EVEN WORSE! She told me not to be friends with my other bff, Lynnette, & lynnette is my only good friend at the school right now. shes trying to turn me agains EVERYONE! I HATE HER! So then i was gonna tell her i'm not gonna be her friend any more because i couldn't take it but she was w/ molly & kayla and wanted to be popular so she said "lauren, if ur gonna be like that then WHAT THE HECK IS UP YOUR BUTT!?" she's just jealous her EX boyfriend broke up with her bcause she doesnt HAVE ONE! I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SHE MAKES ME SO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!and she lies to get a reaction. she said this girl sophie makes fun of me for my curly hair but she doesn't! she also said her dad used to live in a haunted house where she said the bed lifted up by itself! as if! she even went up to the guy i liked and practically made fun of him twice!!!! now he hates me!! so then she emails me saying she wants to work things out so i start yelling at her online and then she says "WHATEVER! ILL JUST BE FRIENDS WITH KRISTEN!"
i don't even know what i'm asking....
how can i get her back in kind of a nice way?
but not so nice...???
thanks
woah, i'm guessing your pissed off?
hah. yeahh, i used to be in your same situation.
i doubt you wanna hear this, but you HAVE to ignore it. that's what i did.
just give yourself some space from them. yes, it will take a while. hey -- it took me three months.
with the whole guy thing, talk to him about it. go up to him & say, "hey. about the other day -- i'm sorry. hah, i didn't really mean for her to say all of that stuff. i don't even know why she did or WHAT it was that she even said, but i'm sorry." & just smile sort of.
does she have IM? or do you know her e-mail address?
send her something saying, "i don't even know what your problem is, but i think i need some space for a while, okay? i haven't done anything to you, so can go say all the shit you want .. but i honestly don't care. you know why? unless you plan on changing anytime soon, we aren't friends anymore."
i know what kind of situation you're in, so if you need any more help -- just leave me something in my inbox.
good luck!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much, that was GREAT ADVICE! =]