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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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im a 15 year old female.
so me and my boyfriend are taking a break after 9 months. he is one of those guys who knows exactly what he wants, and its me. he always says how he want us to get married, have kids, and all of that. and me being 15(he is 15 also) am not ready to decided who im going to marry and stuff. im ready to have fun! but, he is really sweet and so nice but i needed a break and some time to catch up with my friends that i havent been hanging out with in awhile. so now he keeps saying how he wants to get back together and it hasnt been a week yet and it is driving me crazy. i dont know what to do. he keeps acting like we are still together. and freaks out with i told him that "i dont like anyone yet." so now he is complaining about how he thinks im going to get with someone else and ah! what should i do? should i give in? ignore him?

I think that you should definitely stay on your break. This guy must be driving you nuts, and he's really putting pressure on you. If you stay with him, you'll just feel smothered and miserable, which will probably eventually lead to a nasty break-up, and you don't want that.

What you need to do is to talk to him, one on one. Let him know that while you care about him, you really want to take a break to catch up with friends and any other areas of your life you've been neglecting for the past nine months. Tell him, straight up, that you aren't looking for a relationship with anyone right now. If he really likes and respects you, he will understand and accept this. If he doesn't, just apologize and move on. This guy needs to find someone who cares for him as much as he cares for her, and by letting him go, you're giving him the chance to experience that.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) wow, thanks. that helped alot :)
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