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how would you describe a good person (in detail) because i really want to become one, but don't know where to start ?!
You may not suspect... But you just asked a very philosophical question.
You have just asked everyone to define what qualities make a person "good." I'm warning you... You are going to receive a million different answers. And I will also tell you that you can try... But you will not be able to live up to even one of those answers.
Why? Because... "Good people" and "bad people" do not actually exist. You, me, everyone... We all have good qualities, we all have bad qualities, and with each decision we make... We change. We are both good and bad, constantly and simultaneously.
I can promise you that in your lifetime, you will do great things... Though your great works may never be realized. But you will love someone, help someone... You will touch lives, if even only on the smallest scale. You will also screw up on a frequent basis. You will make mistakes. You will hurt other people.
Before you start to feel depressed... Hear me out. All of this is to be expected. Such behavior, both positive and negative, are part of the human condition. That's just life. No one is perfect. Instead... We are all perfectly imperfect. Our flaws are an important part of who we are... Because it is our flaws that make us all different, our flaws that allow us to make mistakes... Mistakes that are valuable, because we can learn from them.
So... My advice is... Don't get caught up in trying to be good, or trying to be bad. And never ask someone else what you should be. If you are going to try to be anything... Try being yourself. And if you let anyone tell you what you should be, let it be one person. You.
BTW... You know why I think you're asking this question? I think you're asking because you're insecure. It's okay to be insecure, everyone is to varying to degrees... And I think there is something noble to be said for being able to abmit that you aren't perfect. But don't let you're insecurity rule your life. You are a beautiful person. Believe in yourself.
So... Bottom line: Don't ask others to define what a "good person" is. Instead, ask yourself and think long and hard about your answer. And once you've found you're answer, try to be that. But even while you're trying... Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes are important. And don't beat yourself up when you do make a mistake. Instead, ask yourself what you can learn from your own actions. And know, and be proud, that you have taken one more step towards becoming what you want to be. Remember that you can be anything or anyone you want to be... And never let anyone else convince you otherwise. Never let anyone else tell you what you should be... Because if you do, you're living for them and not for yourself. And life is far too short to live for anyone else but you.
(Rating: 5) i love you. no really, i do. wow is all i can say, and i'd do anythingt to be able to give you more than a 5, because this was an amazing answer. Not exactly what I was looking for, and to be honest, at first when I started to read you answer i said "sigh, someone who's going to twist my question into some kinda philosophical debate.. oh my" but as I read on, I realized how right you were and how I'm ALWAYS so insecure and always try to change to become what everyone wants me to be. Thank you soo much, from the depth of my sometimes good, sometimes bad, heart.