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I have this BFF who's soo funny and cool, but she hates my other BFF who is also funny and cool!! Whenever i talk to her my other BFF gets mad and won't speak to me for the rest of the day!! She also makes fun of the other BFF in front of me and it irritates me!! I still want to be friends with both of them but how do I please them both at the same time!!??!!

Alright, well I know this is a tough decision for you & I know you really wanna be friends with both, but the BFF who hates the other one and is making fun of him/her, just doesn't sound worth your time. Honestly, you shouldn't put up with it, I think she's just insecure you two won't be as good friends if you hang out with the other person. Did you ever ask her/him why she/he hates the other person? If not, do so. It's important to know why, but don't believe EVERYTHING you hear. It's stupid that she's/he's not letting you be friends with the other person at the same time with the other. Now, I know you wanna be friends with both, and you can. I'm not gonna say..."Pretend like you're not, so you can please both." Because you need to please yourself as well in these friendships. Spend equal amounts of time with them, and I hope everything works out
-Depressed_Poet

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(Rating: 4) The one who hates the other can be very mean to everyone but we have been BFF's since 3rd grade it will be hard but i think ill try to spend equal amount of time with each one like you said!! THX
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