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ok this guy that i really really like his name is matt ok and his friend nolan asked me out for matt i said no thinking he was joking then a few days ago these 2 kids corey and jeremy asked me out for matt again and i didnt even answer them so my friends thought that matt actualy liked me and also i got sent to ISS which is in school detention for something really stupid but while i was gone my friends said that matt was like wheres julie wheres julie and looking around for me and then i was sitting there laughing and he looked over at me and smiled it was really cute hehe yeah anyway so my friends really think he likes me i dont though but my friend liz said that corey one of the guys that asked me out for matt was like i asked julie out for dont tell him or something so i was just wondering liek does anyone know if this guy matt likes me or not and if you have any suggestiong that would be great too btu i'm a really shy person when it comes to guys so just remember that please and thank you

i answered a similar question a while back, it does seem to me that he likes you, and if you like him also then you need to let that be known.

realize that no one is born with experience when it comes to the opposite sex. others might be more naturally relaxed with the opposite sex, but what doesn't come natural can always be learned.

and right now is the best time for you to develop yourself socially, and learn how to be more relaxed, how to take a compliement, how to hold your own in a conversation with a guy you like, and how to interact with the opposite sex.

believe me it will be a life saver later on in your life if you conquer this scary, but easy thing.

if his friends ask you again, then you should be very polite, and well mannered and ask them why he doesn't ask you himself, after all you don't bite.

give him a smile when you see him...

not to scare you or anything but i have seen it happen so many times where a guy will like a girl and vice versa but they never talk and eventually they give up all together.

if you want to have a chance with him then say "hello" or "good morning" followed by your best smile. if he smiles back and responds with a "hello" or a "good morning" then you are on the right track, if he engages you in conversation, and you aren't confident then all you need to do is ask him a few questions, "Hey, do you know what the cafeteria is serving for lunch tody?", or "i am having a hard time in math/science/etc. are you good at math/science/etc.?", or "so-an-so, gave me this really nasty candy and i can't get the taste out of my mouth, you don't by chance happen to have a peice of gum or something do you?"

or you know whatever you can think of... truely listen to what he says, and while he is talking think of something that you can ask him about what he just talked about, that way you can keep him going in a conversation, and learn alot more about him... later on when you can hold a conversation a little better then you can talk about something about you so he can learn more about you too...

but for right now, you need to make yourself seem approachable, you need to allow him to see that you are a sweet and polite person, and that alone might coax him out from his shy shell long enough for him to come over and say "hi".

good luck.

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