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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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hey my name is danielle and i went out iwththis guy for about 10 months. i reli loved him adn we didnt end things on the best note but it was needed. he lied to me and i reli think that i will never ever get over that its been 6 months and i still lvoe him i was with this other guy recently liek going out and i had to end it because iw anst beign faire to im because i loved guy #1. i dont know wat to do i reli love him and i feel we shoudl be together maybe not now but later and i kno that we both think about eachother uits one of thsoe relatinships that u just know.a nd weve been throough alot and i dno. wat shoudl i do. iw ant to get over him but i cant.?

I think that the only thing that will put your mind to rest is talking to this guy. You said that you can't stop thinking about him, and that you know that he thinks about you. Then, you can truly find out if you still matter to him, and if you can rebuild a relationship with him.

If he wants to get back together, think about it. He DID lie to you; Is it worth the risk?

If he wants to stay friends, respect that decision. Don't pressure him to do anything. You'll just have to move on.

Also, if what he lied about was serious and important, you probably should keep trying to let go of your feelings for him. You deserve (and you'll find) a guy who you can trust.

Getting over a guy isn't easy. First of all, you have to accept the fact that he isn't the one for you. The number-one thing that prevents someone from getting over another person is denial. For instance, you keep thinking that he'll come around, when in reality, he probably won't.
Also, don't mope around the house, thinking of what could've been. Take up a new hobby, be with friends, do what you love... You have so many choices. But if you need to, you can talk to someone about your situation. It helps a lot to express your feelings and ask for advice, a shoulder to cry on, or a listener.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave another one in my inbox!
-Manders

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