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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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Hi, i wrote the thing about liking another guy besides my boyfriend. well i dont think i put this in the question before but its really weird the way i feel about my boyfriend like one day i will really really like him but then others i get really annoyed.. thats what makes this so hard for me. and dont worry i wasnt planning on going out with this other guy immediatley after because i still care about my boyfriend. but i guess iam just completely lost and do not know whether to end it or not and if i do i dont know how because he will act all depressed whenever im around to try and make me feel bad if i do break up with him and i dont want to hurt him i just want us to be able to be friends. Thanks for helping me though!

Try to figure out exactly what annoys you about him. Is he clingy? Ask him (nicely!) to give you a little space. Does he chew with his mouth open? Politely ask him to stop. It's possible that your problem is small and can be changed.

But if you can't put your finger on what annoys you about him, then you're probably just annoyed with him in general. That's a big red flag that tells you that you should go ahead and end the relationship. You're not happy, and those negative feelings are going to affect and hurt your boyfriend much more in the long run.
If you know that a relationship isn't going to work and you keep it going, you're (in a way) leading him on, which makes him believe that nothing is wrong. When you finally decide to end it, he'll probably be more confused and hurt than if you went ahead and ended it now.

The problem might not be him; It could be the relationship. You might just feel tied down and want to be single again. If that's the case, you might want to consider taking a break.

All things considered, I think you should follow your heart and do what's best for you.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) Thank you soo much! you really helped me out!
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