One of my best friends, who I've known since we were toddlers, is starting to really get on my nerves. She tries to be like the popular people ALL the time. She doesn't buy clothes from the "it" stores, but she tries to act like her clothes are the best... like, she rolls up her sweatpants like everyone else does (which I hate, but that doesn't really matter) and tries to make her hair have that bump on the bottom when she wears a ponytail. But... it comes off looking reaaaaally bad on her. Then, when she's talking to people, you can tell that she thinks that she's better than them, even when she's obviously not. And she always ditches me for her other friends just so she can be "popular"... like, my other best friend waits for me at the end of all of the classes we have together, but this friend just walks out the door talking to a different person every class. It really ticks me off. Although, when we're alone, she acts like she always used to. I think its great that my friend wants to try and be... cooler... but she's really hurting her other friends feelings, since I know she ditches my other best friend (we're a trio) all the time. And the thing is... her new friends are almost all geeky and nerdy. What should I do??? I don't want to seem like I'm telling her what to do.
my advice for you on this one is to just let your friend try to do the whole "popular" thing, dont really tell her what to do just let her experience it for herself. If she ever needs you be there for her and if she asks you how she looks tell her honestly. Most likely she'll realize that its not worth trying to be popular when she has a bestfriend that she loves and that will stick by her no matter what. It may take some patience with her but i think its something that your friend has to learn for herself, that being popular isnt everything and actually having 2 close best friends is way better than having all the aquaintences in the world.
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so right. thankss =)
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