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ive always been unhappy about my nose. i think its kinda big and i dont know! i know i have to live with it but its something ive always been self-conscious about. and it made me even MORE tonight. you see there is this adorable kid and hes really sweet and hes always thought i was hott my cousin said. but then tonight he came up somehow and my cousin was like he said you werent so hott anymore and because you had a jacked up nose or something. this made me feel really bad about myself because i thought people were getting past seeing my nose. everyone thinks im soo pretty but i just cant get over my nose and sometimes i just think im overreacting but then when people start saying stuff i know its true. i just dont know what to doo.. =( (link)
you know what? i have exactly the same problem...and i bet my nose is bigger than yours! i have a huge bump in the middle bit :( i hate it, and i cant go any more than a few hours thinning about i.t) i ,too am ashamed to be with my friends because i feel they're beautiful, and im ugly. and when i have my picture taken, i go balistic if anyone takes it from a side view. i have to be the one to take the pic from an acceptable angle! . im terrible. it even gets so bad that when i walk past people who will see me from the side view (especially to the right sude of me as i feel thats my worst view), i ruffle my hair out, or pull my scarf over it to they dont see it, stop , point and yell "look at her nose!". its become an automatic habit. i hate living like this every day, and even though my boyfriend is constantly telling me im beautiful, and im perfect the way i am, i cant believe him as i dont see how anyone could love me with a nose like that. hes so beautiful, and i suck :(
i have days the same as you do when i feel its not so bad- i overreacted, people accept it, but then one day, a little asshole will comment on it, making you feel like shit again. someone did that to me about a month ago, and all my friends were there and they gave him a mouthful saying how rude he was. he said it in a humerous tone, but funnily enough NO ONE laughed. i ran out crying (i find this a little pathetic- but at the end of the say, can you really blame someone if they have just been insulted bout their most insecure feature? ). this made me realise that people DO accept it, and personality wins over looks, hands down! i have so many frieds, who tell me i look nice and now i just say thanks, ebven if i do feel theyre reassuring me some og the time.
i dont want you to feel like youre the only one who suffers, join the club! , and this is what i think to myself regularly when its geting me down..."you could have it a lot worse you know! 'you could be missing an arm, or have a third nipple. you could be blind, or deaf. you could be disabled. but youre not, you have friends. you are loved by many...so what are you worrying for?" it is hard to ignore, but im just hoping i'll grow out of this phase soon, or that it will go back to how it was about 10 years ago ( a cute button nose grrrr!)
i hope i helped, and that there was some advice within that muddle :S
at the end of the day, ive been told "its just a nose". people may never understand why we feel the way we do about this, but i suppose other people have things they worry about too which we are oblivious towards.
people who actually give a shit about your looks and disapove are shallow,and havent got anything better to do,so try to maye your day a bad one- which unfortunatley, they succeed in. :( you have to realise, that these types of people have no chance NO life, just like that guy, theyll get nowhere if they base everything on looks. looks actually get you nowhere really, and if you rely on them to get you through a situation, then thats a stupid way to go about life. im sure you have many other qualities which are loved by everyone. everyone is unique and different. you are different, and if everyone was the same, life would be boring.
life is going to be hard enough without you worrying about your nose. unfortunatley we cant do anything about it (unless you are considering plastic surgery), i do this alot, but then i get freaked out, and put off about how much it would cost, and the fact you will have bruises in the area for 8 weeks :O.
so why dont we both take this advice and focus on the big things in life, not the little ones. that way, we're more likely to be happier , carefree people :)


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oh my god! thank you sooo much :) i cant belive someone is going thru the same thing as me. thanks for easing me up a bit tho it helped! you have amazing advice




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