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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).


I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.


I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.


I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.

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I think way too much and I can't help it, I've been doing this since I was a little kid. I overreact to the most stupid things. For example, I have trouble falling asleep because I'm up worrying about college and I'm only a SOPHOMORE in high school. My mom yelled at me for being late for school today and I wanted to cry about it. And, my friend didn't say bye to me when I left school and it got me in the worst mood. My mind immediately jumps to the worst scenario, like "OMG she didn't say bye because she hates you!" and I freak out about it. Sometimes I wish I could turn my mind off, because now I'm getting in these terrible moods and yelling at people because I worry too much. I always think that people hate me but I know that's not true. Ugh I wish I could just stop. And right now I'm worrying about worrying. Ahhh. Any suggestions on how I could just get myself to calm down a bit and stop thinking about everything? Thanks.

There's a couple of things you can try. Make a worry box: Decorate a shoe box, write your thoughts down and then put the papers in the box and put the box out of sight. Your worries are put away and can't escape from the box.

Another technique is called thought stopping, this site explains it much better than I can.

http://changingminds.org/techniques/conversion/thought_stopping.htm#sto

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