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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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Ok, um...there was this guy that i liked and i really liked him, and i thought he liked me, so i had his friend Alex( a girl) to tell him, and it turned out i was wrong, but how was i supposed to know, he was always flirting with me. Anyways, he isnt interested in me like that, and i was ok with that, but there is only one problem. WHY CANT I GET OVER HIM! I like him evem more, can you tell me why i cant get over him, because i mean shudnt i be like upset? I am so confused. Please help me!

So many of us have been where you are now: Liking someone, finding out they don't feel the same way, and end up liking them even more.
This just backs up the theory that we all want what we can't have. You really, really want this guy, but now you know that you can't have him, and that just makes you want and like him even more.
There isn't really a magical solution for getting over somebody. It just... happens. But I'll see if I can help you speed up the process a little.

Number one: Don't hang around him so much. Realize that you can live for a day without seeing him. Tell yourself that you don't need him to be happy and to have a good day. Repeat this until you believe it.
Number two: Don't keep trying to get him to like you. I know, you like this guy a lot, but you're missing out on opportunities with other guys by being hung up on one guy who doesn't like you back. Which leads us to number three...
Number three: Don't shut other guys. Realize that there are better guys out there that will like you as much as you like them. Just give it time.
Number four: Don't mope around the house. Hang out with friends, take up a new hobby, exercise, read... basically, occupy yourself. Do what you love.
You'll get over him with time and find someone who is so much better for you than this guy is... I promise.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) THank You so much. I really loved your advice. I think you are right. Thankz!
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