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im Kristin. 20 years old. Criminal justice major/psychology minor at Georgia Southern University - let the good times roll =]. i'm really laid back, love talking to people, and having a good time. i get on here when i'm bored so if you have a question, inbox me!

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17/f - My boyfriend (15 yrs old.) broke up with me a few days ago because he said he didn't want to be in a relationship right now because a few months ago he got out of a 2 yr relationship with a girl he loved that cheated on him with his cousin and bestfriend. We didn't go out that long but I ended having strong feelings for him. He wanted to be friends but it bothered me too much. I think he only wanted sex and I'm still a virgin and I don't want to have sex yet. Anyways, I was on the phone with him yesterday and he was kidding around alot about having sex with me and being friends with benefits (which I seriously DON'T want). I got really pissed off and hung up. So he called back and told me he wouldn't kid around with me anymore and then he told me he wanted to be honest with me and tell me something and said he had sex with this girl on my bus twice! Once, the week before me and him started to go out and wednesday (2 days after he broke up with me)! I was crying and my friend that was over asked if she could talk to him and she did. When she got off the phone we talked about him and everything. She went through almost the same stuff I had to go through and told me I should stop talking to him and maybe be friends with him later when I was ready. I know it's a good choice and I called him and told him I didn't want to be friends right now and he said ok and we hung up. I'm just so heartbroken and a part of me wants him and a part wants me to forget him and move on. I'm also thinking he might have cheated on me while we were going out but I don't want to find out even he did. My questions are: Do you think it's a good thing I stopped talking to him for now? Should I move on? Or be friends with him? How can I make things easier for me not to get jealous seeing him with other girls and help me move on? Also, the girl he had sex with has A BOYFRIEND!! Don't you think it's wrong since he had to deal with his exgirlfriend cheating on him so why would he let that happen to another guy?! Ughh seriously I just need some advice and opinions on what to do. Thanks and sorry it's so long.

It may seem like part of you wants him, but im sure part of you just wants what you THOUGHT he was. it does sound like he WAS only after sex, so, yes its good you stopped talkin to him for now. thats the only way to really help yourself get over him. if you get used to life without him by not being friends with him, itll be so much easier on you, even if it seems hard now; but if you still try to be friends with him, those feelings will stay with you and youll only be hurting yourself more. later on, maybe if one day yall strike up a random conversation after things have died down and youre ok without him, and things are cool between yall, then im sure yall will be able to be friends, but just dont push it. as far as bein jealous when you see him with other girls, just realize that now he's THEIR problem and you can find someone so much better. if he had sex with that girl that soon before & after yalls relationship, chances are, he WAS cheating on you. but obviously i cant be sure. and if he did that to her when she says a bf, then he probably used that as a way to try to get over his last girlfriend, or hes just really inconsiderate, although he shouldnt be since hes been in that situation. but if he didnt care that her bf could find out and be hurt, then he probably didnt really care if he hurt you either. hes a guy, you kno we'll never really understand them, lol. all you can do is AVOID him for now, and go out with friends and just try to have a good time, and try meeting some new guys too! yeah you probably arent ready to right now, but the sooner you get talkin to some guys, the sooner youll be over him, and even if you dont end up with a new bf soon, talkin to more guys will at least get you some more friends to help in this situation [ and get revenge on guys like your ex for you! ;) ] haha. good luck girl!

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(Rating: 5) so true. and i think that maybe he's only doing it to get over his ex-gf too. thanks so much. =)
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