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Q: I don't know what to do and I can't cope so please help me if you can...

The truth is...nobody likes me. I'm not saying that in a 'feeling sorry for myself' way. It's fact. I work in an office where I overhear people bitching about me, where people lie about me and where they arrange nights out and I'm the only one not invited.

I can't do anything about it really because none of it can be proven and my Manager already believes the lies that have gone round about me because he's confronted me about them. There's nobody above him I can go to and I can't leave because I need the money and having looked around, I know I can't get the same anywhere else.

I can't seem to do anything right. Work is bad enough. I try SO hard and have done hours and hours of overtime, which I even refused to accept payment for because of personal reasons but I still mistakes. Constantly.

To make matters worse, I'm a complete failure in all other aspects of my life. I can't keep our home clean. I can't do a whole host of other things I should be able to do and the only things I ever really work at, I fail at and I'm so fed up of being such a loser and a failure that all I can seem to do is cry right now and not stop.

My boyfriend tries so hard to help me cope but I feel so miserable all the time and there's nothing anyone can do because the problem is with ME.

So, I guess my question is, how can I be happier? How can I stop feeling so bad about everything I seem to suck at?? And how do I find people who care about me, because other than my boyfriend, I don't think anyone does.
Why do you tolerate that behavior at work? Listen, no money is worth the social and verbal abuse that you're getting. Talk to the other employees and tell them that you're not going to take it from them anymore. You need to be the strong one here or else everyone is going to continue lying about you and taking advantage of that. Now, if they don't stop that is something you should consider bringing up with your boss. Again, that behavior is unacceptable especially in the work place. You are not supposed to be disrespected like that for not doing anything.


There is a skill out there that you're good at. Everyone has something, and I know you do too. Realize that when you make a mistake, you must learn from it. If you feel upset for doing it you're just putting yourself down even more. Say "I'll do it better next time". Figure out what it is you did wrong, and try to solve what you can do to prevent it next time.


Exercise strengthens your mood alot. After you've worked out you feel as though you accomplished something. Additionally, the same applies to trying a new activity.


You've got to learn not to give up. You've heard it a lot over the years but it's true. Having this idea in yoru head promotes happiness and self-assurance.

People will start to pay more attention to you if you have a positive image about yourself. There is a girl everyday who comes to school every day frowning, wearing black, and she never makes eye contact. People already get the impression that she's a. lonely b. depressing to be around c. wants to be left alone by society. Meanwhile, she may be in need of friends but no one would ever know because she gives off a bad self image of herself and then people are afraid to talk to her. See what I mean? How you think of yourself does affect peoples opinion of you.

Thank you. Your advice was thorough, well explained and very gratefully received.

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