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i didnt know whether to put this in injuries or sex, but since it has to do with a certain part of my body, i guess sex?
anyway, i have a vaginal tearing.... it's not really my fault, but it's so embaressing, and i cant bare to tell anyone. i feel dirty and gross, and i dont want anyone to be near that part of my body. (and my gf keeps wanting to have sex, and i keep having to make shit up!)
also, it hurts, and everytime i touch my self down there i get little to no pleasure, i pretty much just feel irritated all over down there. please tell me what i can possibly do?? it's obviously not just going to magically go away, and i'm so sick of feeling this way. what in the heck should i do? (link)
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Ouch honey! Go to your doc. I know you don't want to and you're going to be embarrassed but doctors deal with this sort of thing all the time. Most women, for example, tear when they give birth and if you think about the amount of women who have babies you'll see how often they deal with this sort of thing. Not to mention all the women who tear during sex.
Anyway the upshot of it is your doc might take a look (again, they see HUNDREDS of vaginas so will be unfazed. Ask for a female doc to make you more comfortable. It's more than likely the doctor examining you has been in your position more than once too!) and will probably tell you to just keep it clean and leave it alone until it heals. Or if it doesn't heal on its own or give you some cream to put on it. If you lived with it this long I doubt it's bad enough to require a stitch so no-one'll be messing about down there. Don't worry about it too much tho- it's built for childbirth and sex so it's pretty able to deal with wear and tear!
In the meantime, tell your girlfriend. It's not gross or dirty-it's just an injury! I bet she'd far rather know what's going on than feel confused and rejected by you avoiding sex for seemingly no reason. Although, obviously, yes avoid sex until you're healed. She'll understand that.x
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