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Q: 14/f HELP ME SOON PLEASE....

Ok, well right now im crying. I was supposed to go to my boyfriend Ian's house but my mom just wouldnt take me. She left a note on my back so that I saw it when I woke up. It said," Sorry Rebecca, I love you. I just cant do this. You will be mad at me but I still love you. I dont want you dating anymore until you're 16. I dont want you to see Ian anymore. I love you." She's doing this because of my grandpa. I know she doesnt mean this because she approved of me and him. Its just because of what happened to my grandpa last night...

Right now we are experiencing a hurricane in my area and it has rained for the past four days now I think. My garndpa walked 3 miles in the rain to the cemetery where my great-grandma was buried, laid there for almost an hour, and talked to her. He told my grandma that my great-grandma said that she would see him soon, he would die soon. He told my grandma that no one loved him, no one cared for him, he was just too afraid to kill himself. He walked half way back and then started getting chest pains so he stopped and got someone to call the house. It was like 10:00pm. It's 7:00am right now, and he's still in chest pains, denying that he lives in th house, and my grandma is going to send him to an asylum. THIS IS ALL MY FAULT. IM A BAD PERSON. MY GRANDPA ALMOST COMMIT SUICIDE BECAUSE OF ME. IM A BAD PERSON. Rihgt now I just want all o this to go away but I love Ian, I dont want to stop dating him. I know that may be selfish in my current situation but I love Ian. I really do. And he loves me back. I dont want to break up with him. What should I do? I'm still in tears and the middle of a breakdown and I feel terrible about all of this. Please, if you're goingto give feedback, advice, ect., please dont say to break up with Ian. I dont want to do that and will not. I'll find a way to make this right for us. But I need help with my grandpa situation. I need help. Please...
well i think you should talk to your mom about your grampa and see what help you can provide even if it is just around the house or something.

Ian will have to wait maybe keep your relationship on the downlow for awhile or ask him if you guys can take a break explian your sitition to him i am sure he will be able to help you figure out what to do.

I am not sure how you got it in your head that this is all your fault or that you are a bad person but let me asure Killers are bad people Rapist are bad people.A teenage girl thinking about her boyfriend is totally normal and a good person!people often think of other things when stress that will cause worry is going on to me that sounds like you what you are doing.That is perfectly normal to when my Nana was in the hospital i sort of did the same thing.

if you need to talk i am always here mizztalk_alot@hotmail.com
tell me how it goes

~nikki~
lalagurly

thanks so much. my mom made me and ian take a break so we'll see how it does from there...

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