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Yoo. I'm Tori =] I had one of these a while ago but randomly stopped. So now I'm ready to start fresh and give lotsss of advice. I can handle almost any question ;; so ask away !!!

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this is REALLY long...sorry

I like this guy named Kevin, and i have for a while.
i have liked other guys, and had a boyfriend, but always had a crush on this guy.
We are pretty good friends, and we are coworkers
one day while working, i was like "hey, kevin, did you know i used to like you?"
and i said that because i didnt relize until a few days later i actually still liked him, its kinda a long story...
anyway, his jaw like, dropped, and i ended up asking him if he ever liked me, and after a really long and confusing answer, he was like "yeah, i did, it happened, its done" or soemthing like that.

So, i ended up telling him a few days later i still liked him, and he was like "okay" cause i kinda told him in this note i wrote him lol.

i was talking to him online, and i asked him what he liked about me before
he said " i dont know really, a lot of things, your looks were one of the things i'm sure...and the fact i can talk to you and it not be akward at all...that and a lot of other things"
so i said "okay, so what happened? my looks went bad and you cant talk to me"
and he said "no, i just cant trust you"

a few months ago, we made out, andi told a few friends, someone over heard, told a bunch of people, and too many people found out.
and someone told him i said he was a terrible kisser, plus,i have a fear of making out with guys with braces because i cut my tounge on this guys ones...

so thats what he means by he cant trust me...he says i critizes him too much because he still thinks i said he was bad, and because of the braces thing.

so, i flirt with him a lot, and he flirts back, and yet he says he doesnt like me anymore because of the trust thing...

then today, i was flirting with a lifegaurd at work (we allwork at the pool) and he got really pissed off
he was like "this is what i mean by the trust thing"
and i was like "you made it clear you dont like me, why do you care?"
and he said"because, if you really liked me, you wouldnt do that"

there was a lot more, and much more back story, but here is the question:
should i just try and gain his trust back somehow, and not flirt with anyother guys, and just focus on Kevin?
or should i tell him that since he says he doesnt like me, i dont want to be pressed on him all summer if there is no chance?



sorry it took me so long to answer your question.
i was away on vacation, but now im back =)

as for your actual question, it all depends. you need to figure out which is more important to you, kevin, or any other guy (like the lifegaurd).

if you do decide you like kevin a lot, totally focus on him. hang around him, forget other guys, and flirt MAJOR. he'll realize you put aside every guy just for him, and will trust you again. it may take some time, but its practically a sure in. i bet he does like you, i mean after all you did make out. but he's just worried. he wont be soon though!

however, if you do decide you want some freedom of whats left of summer, flirt with twice as many guys. kevin will move on, and most likely be jealous.
i wish i could tell you what to do exactly. but. i cant. its all up to you!

hope i helped! (and sorry this is so long!) ♥

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(Rating: 5) its no problem
thanks for the help
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