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Ok, so my best friend is with her second boyfriend ever. The first one only lasted a couple weeks and it wasn't really serious. She has been with the one she's with now since December. Well, they are wicked, wicked serious about each other and I've come to accept that and even be happy for her because she's finally happy again. But this has kinda started to get too far. Her boyfriend asked her to marry him when they become of age and she pretty much said yes. I guess I'm kinda concerned that she's throwing her life away over her second boyfriend. But the major problem with me comes from the age. I'm only 14/f, she's same as me, and he's 15/m. It freaks out alotof our friends because true love at this age is so rare. Do I talk to her or just stay out of it? Am I just jealous? (link)
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To be honest I'd leave it. Pound to penny they won't do it anyway- 2 years (4 without their parents' consent) is a long time and they'll most likely either end or grow mature enough to make a sensible decision by that time. So for now don't wax lyrical about it but don't criticise either- it'll just make her more determined to prove everybody wrong and so make her reluctant to break up with him if things do start to go wrong.
On the other hand, who knows? Maybe it's meant to be, but again I think you'll all be more comfortable if they still feel this way a few years down the line as it'll show they're really good together and might make it.
Possibly there's a little bit of jealousy on your part but I think you have genuine concerns about your friend. Just sleep easy in the knowledge that what they're talking about doing is impossible right now and they've plenty of time to figure things out for themselves. x
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