im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
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i feel like my mom is running my love life. when i was 13, i met this boy. i fell madly in love with him and to this day, 2/3 years later, i'm still crazy about him. he liked me a lot. i think he still does but he's just hurt about all of this that's been going on. my mom ADORED his best friend. she told me that if i was going to like anybody that it could only be his best friend and her mind was set. she said that the other guy was ugly and stupid. so, i pretended to like his best friend infront of her. she was so happy and every time i might have hinted that there was something for the other guy, she would get soo pissed. so, i told my best friend about what was going on, and she was the only one that knew. but, then in 8th grade, my mom saw the one she thought was ugly at a party and saw how much she thought he cared for me and she liked him and stuff. and then i was at the hospital on christmas because i had a really bad cough that was non-stop for 3 days and 3 nights and the only thing that made me stop coughing was when she said his name. she dumped my boyfriend of 1 year over the internet because she says that he was sending me inappropriate things. i thought it was gross, but it wasn't worth dumping him for. he said he was sorry. but, she really shouldn't have done that. but, i recently met this guy and she says he's ugly and she doesn't like him because he's ugly and he carries things in a bag. the only reason he brought a bag was because we were going in the pool so he brought an extra change of clothes. she finds the stupidest reasons for things. she thinks he's weird or something and he's not like that, he's a very nice person and he has excellent table manners lol. but, i'm tired or her running my love life. i feel like she wants to control who i can and can't like. i've talked to her about it, but she just doesn't understand. she doesn't think anything she does is wrong. and i think all of these 3 circumstances have everything wrong with them
1) TELLING ME I COULD ONLY LIKE HIS BEST FRIEND
2) DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT MY PERMISSION!
3) TELLING ME I CAN'T LIKE A BOY BECAUSE SHE THINK'S HE'S UGLY!!!!!
now she's telling me i have to like the one she thought was ugly in the first place and i still love him, but, i'm kind of just hanging around and waiting for him to come around. because, recently he was getting into things like smoking pot and stuff and i want him to outgrow it and i also don't want to make a move on him like that. i want to hint it and stuff. but, there's nothing wrong with liking someone and him getting a little jealous with it. deep down i really care about him, but that's besides the point
it'advice about my mom please
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im sry but im going to tell you straight what you have to do! What she did and is doing still is sooooo wrong and duh you know that but if i were you when she dumped your boyfriend for you you should started talking or yelling at her saying that you dont have the rite to tell me if i can date him or not or dump any one with out me knowing. Make it clear make it crystle clear that you dont ever ever want her to be in your YOUR love life ever again you make the decisions around that area not her. You have to stand up for yourself if u dont do it now just think years from now what she will do when your going to get married is she going to say you cant get married to him because he didnt fit into his tux the first time. What it sounds like here is that she doesnt (a) wnat you to fall in love because sometimes love hurts and she doesnt want you to get hurt or (b)just doesnt want you to leave her because of a guy. she probally thinks that her liltle girl is falling in love and doesnt want her to. she loves you more and wants you to love her and just her no one else everyone else is out of the picture. so i hope i helped and you take this very seriosly tell her how you feel and if she doesnt get it than the best thing to do is to hurt (feeling i mean) that the only way it worked for me and it can work for you!
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