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Q: Sorry if this is soo long but its pretty serious.

my Male Cousin recently got marriedlike 4 months ago. And his wife is pregnant. Well not even a week ago her grandfather & grandmother & two half brothers came over from oklahoma to florida. yea perfect right. not. while there her grandfather was driving around with my male cousin and said his driving was horrible. Saturday Morning the grandfather insisted on leaving but my male cousin didnt want him to drive with the grandmother and the 2 kids while his drving was bad. But the grandfather insisted and left. not even 30 min onto the highway he got in a serious car accident. He drove right into one of those huge trucks & flipped the van a few times. It was horrible. the grandmother and the younger of the two kids passed right away. The older kid and the grandfather were on life support. They finally got released out of the hospital a few days ago. Now my cousin && his wife are going to oklahoma for the funeral.

Next part.
His wifes mother & stepdad live with her grandparents. The youngerof the kids was the stepdads only kids with her and she can't have anymore. No one wants anything to do with the grandfather at all.

Now my mom wants advice and i have no idea what to say to her. The grand father has really no reason to be hated in my view. He lost his family also.

What is your guys view & what would you say in this situation?

thank you.

You're asking me how you should feel about your mother's sibling's cousin's wife's mother's father? egads... who cares? This guy isn't related to you in any sense of the word, I really don't see what the big deal is. Let the immediate family deal with the big internal issues, you and your mom can do your part by minding your own business.

Rating: 1

you make no sense what so ever. and technically he is related to me but thanks for nothing.

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