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I have a twin sister, and we are 2 minutes apart at birth, me being the eldest. My mom has always stressed to us that favoritism is highly inappropriate and rejected in a parent-child relationship, her being a victim of favoritism herself. But currently, I feel that secretly, my mom favors my sister more, and a lot of times I feel invisible to her. She rarely has time to listen and value my opinion on things, and this has caused us to grow apart.... What can I do to make my mom see and understand how I feel?
Thank you. =)
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She actually sounds like a pretty perfect person to be able to bring this up with since she experienced it herself. Tell her you're sure you're over-reacting but you want to be honest with her and get some reassurance then cite some examples of times you've felt pushed aside or left out.
Avoid accusations coz it sounds like she'll be pretty sensitive and defensive about it if she's so strongly against it but stress that you'd love to be able to set aside some time each week, even if only a few hours to chat just you and her. Offer to go with her when she goes on the grocery shop or something like that if she's really busy to give you an opportunity to spend time together.
I'm sure she doesn't realise she's doing it and will be really eager to make sure you don't end up feeling the way she did.
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Thankyou! Your advice really helped...
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