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16/F, You know that typical story of if the most popular guy likes a girl who is considered a geek/loser that everyone likes to pick on and his friends don't approve by saying that you're reputation will be ruined etc. Then his friends would give them both a hard time in school. I'm in that type of situation and I'm wondering why does this happen? (link)
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To put it simply: because humans are scum.
You've been labled; probably since you started school you've carried a lable that others see. Stereotyping, essentially. Labels are almost a form of "class" in schools. You step out of your "class" and you're persecuted for rattling people's cages and screwing up "the way things work." It's done because many of the popular teens feel that they HAVE to have lables, as it gives them their little groups where they can feel special. Once they get out into the real world, none of that is going to matter, though. The reason you're being persecuted is that you're standing up to this structure, almost a revolution, you might say. And it makes people who believe they have "power" very nervous. (good on you!) They don't like it when someone defies lables like that. It's sad, pathetic, superficial... yeah. But that's most teens for you. Sorry that you're caught up like this.
The best thing to do would be this: talk to the guy about it. If he's understanding and sees what these people are doing, AND is willing to not let it bother him, he's a great guy. A person who can withstand that type of pressure is one in a million. Don't let these people push you around and tell you what you are and who you're "allowed" to love. Giving in to them will tell them that they have power over you, and that's what they crave. Don't give them that satisfaction.
Good luck! I hope that everything works out! ^_^
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