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i'm Brittany and though I'm only 14, I'm really good at the psycology of teens. I usually don't use the answer "you should go to a counsler" or anything similiar to that. Although that is a good idea in many situations, I tend to realize that most teens have thought about that and most of them refuse to talk to a counsler about it. If you want a straight up answer without all the "you shouldn't have done that" talk, let me know.
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I hate myself. I look at myself in the mirror and just want to fricken cut myself, but I won't cut, thats just how I feel. I hate how I look. People are like your perfect weight, but I feel like I won't ever be pretty unless I have a completely flat stomach and muscular theighs. I just can't seam to accept myself. I've been told I'm pretty and stuff. It's just I see all these other girls with perfect hair and skin and I feel ugly! Then, I see these girls w/ all these hot guys, and it makes me feel like I'll never have that. I'm really sad. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. I don't wanna talk to my parents. I only have one friend who I would talk to but he just tells me to go see a therapist or get antidepressants. I just can't seam to feel happy. So my question is, has any girls or guys gone through this and tell me tips on how to feel better. thanks..
I currently am going through that same thing. I tried to resist cutting, but I did it anyway. I felt like I had no control over my life and whatever I wanted I wouldn't be able to get no matter how hard I tried (for example, my crush and certain friends getting mad at me for stupid reasons). These were things I couldn't talk to my friends about because I have MAJOR trust issues.
The first time it helped ALOT... but then all the times after that it didn't help; especially when my friends saw the cuts and they told everyone. When they did that I cut more until I realized soon that the reason I became even more depressed was BECAUSE of cutting, so I stopped 2 weeks ago.
Now I don't feel depressed because I have no control- now it's worse. I just feel depressed continuously and I think that is the side effect of cutting; once you stop, your happiness drowns.
Here is a metaforical phase of what cutting does to depression: Depression is a sickness in your blood. When you cut all of the sickness leaves you, but then when the bleeding stops, the sickness grows back even quicker inside of you.
Now that I once again have no outlet as I did before cutting, I think I am starting to lead to anorexia. Last week my friend had to practically force feed me a fry. Today I had a small yogurt, and thats all I plan eating.
SO MY ADVICE FOR YOU: Don't cut. No matter how good it feels the first time, that happiness only lasts for a few days- then it's gone. Try to always be around your friends and avoid being alone- cus then you have time to think about how screwed your life is and stuff.
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thanks!!! I hope things get better for you too!
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