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Q: Hey im a girl. Im 15 years old. I really like this guy who is a year older then me. We do not go to the same school. So we met on myspace but we live close to each other and next year im going to be going to the same school he is. We met and talked and we also talked alot on aim he was giving me all hints he likes me: calling me his favorite and telling me how amazing i am. Then couple days after we hang out on the weekend it was me him two of my girlfriends and his friend. He was flirting with me and i was flirting with him and i was pretty much positive he liked me. Then we went over to his friends house and everyone else saw we liked each other. They asked me if i liked him and i said yea then they asked him if he liked me and he said he didnt know but i never knew that so i thought he did so i kept on acting like nothing was wrong. Me and him ended up making out for hours. Next morning he was a little akward around me but i knew for a fact he enjoyed making out with me he even told me that. That day i texted him asking him if he liked me as a friend or more because i needed to know. He texted back saying he likes me as a friend. I was really bumbed. Btw my other girlfrined(kelsey) hooked up with the guy i like best friend after an hour of knoning him and did more then make out with him. But going back i was really mad at austin for making out with me and telling me he likes me as a friend. Next couple days i didnt talk to him so he talked to me like nothing was wrong and he stil thinks im the shit and he likes me(he never told but hinted). The very next day i find out he likes my friend(kelsey) who hooked up with his best friend. I was in SHOCK! shes not his type at all! She not very bright or pretty not sound mean or anything but guys never really go for her specially from me to her and so i was really confused. I was soo pissed off also he was doing and tellin the same things he was doing to me. I got over it but then after a week the guy i liked started texting me at night saying he misses me and we need to start over i went and asked my friend why is he liking me all of the sudden didnt he like kelsey a week ago and she just said he was drunk when he texted me. So i kind of just forgot about it but that weekend i saw him and he told me that he doesnt like kelsey anymore so i was like alright. but he was flirting with my other girlfriend and not me. Then he got drunk and everything changed he totally liked me we went to his car and he told me all this stuff that he was afraid he would never get me and thats why he went for kelsey and that he really really likes me and even loves me but i was drunk too(tipsy)So we made out and stuff. Next day he told me he didnt rember anything when i know for a fact he was not that bad to not remmeber anything. So please someone help me? is he PLAYING me? whats going on. Some people say hes way to innocent and shy and had no confidence so he doesnt try to get wiht me because hes afraid to get hurt and turned down.But i really like and i wouldnt do that to him and i think? he knows that. PLease tell me what to do!!!???!?!
just try to forget about it, but if you can't theni suggest you have a serious talk with him when both of you aren't drunk

Its alright. It did really hurt at first like when he told me the next night after we made out he only liked me as friend.(first night) I dont get it also i dont believe in friends with benafits and i thoght he knew that but guess not. I try to forget about him but the problem we have the same friends so im always around him on weekends and thats when we party and get drunk and every single weekend he gets drunk and comes to me.Hes really not a jerk hes really nice and everything. I dont know whats his problem alot of people who know him say its because hes soo innocent and not confident he only does it underinfluence because nothing matters then. I dont know im soo confused about whats going on and i want to believe he really does like me inside but maybe its just what i want to believe. But about the hurting part it doesnt hurt anymore like first couple times we hooked up on alc. i was sooo upset and stuff now its been going on for month basicly every weekend so i like cant even feel anything i mean it still upsets me but im mostly over it. And i was wondering if i should stop it for the best before one of us majorly gets hurt? btw, i was with him last night once again both of us drunk except i wasnt like really drunk so i can think straight and realize whats going on and i try to understand how hes always like that but i just dont get it. He always holds my hand kisses me on the cheek and does the cutest things but the day after he says he doesnt like me.....

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I started this column when I was 15 years old, so you'll notice that the advice has gotten better and better. I've always been interested in counseling and I started this column to gain experience. But, I found a lot more than that. I found a support system of caring and loving people. I received a degree in child development and currently working towards becoming a school psychologist. So, I hope you can feel confident in trusting me with your questions. This is more than just a fun site for me. I look back on my own questions from years ago, and I laugh when I read about my problems at 16. I've really come a long way! I'm relatively young, but I've had several experiences in life that have aided me in helping others. I hope to use those experiences for the greater good and help others who are not in their ideal situation!

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