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I really need help. My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a few weeks ago and it's getting really hard to handle. I knew that I'd be crying a lot and facing a lot of pain, I'm just in a really bad moment of pain.
I've been crying a lot every night because he has a new girlfriend and it really hurts to think about. I know that I should be talking to someone and I do have a really supportive family. I guess I'm asking if theres anything more that I could be doing at this point?
He had an away message talking about how much he loved his girlfriend and it set me off into depression. Can anyone help any further when it comes to dealing with a break-up? (link)
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Lots of cliches coming up but that really do work:
1) copy down his email address and phone number and put them at the bottom of a drawer and then DELETE THEM from your phone and MSN/AIM. This avoids you having to see his crappy mushy little screennames and prevents phonecalls or texts made while drunk/in moments of weakness. (This is a good thing. Trust me.)
2) Make a list of all the bad things about him and your relationship- very easy to idealise it once it's not there- and remind yourself of it when you sart to feel like you've lost something perfect. Top of your list can be he is pretty fickle to move on and be "in love", no less, so quickly after your break up.
3) Go out. With your friends, with your family, by yourself, it doesn't matter. Concentrate of having fun and doing things you enjoy that have nothing to do with him. This is an excellent time to catch up with your girlfriends, let them bitch about all his flaws and then totally forget about him during girly days of shopping/spa-ing/partying or whatever.
I don't knwo if you have to see him a lot but if you do, a brave face is a wonderful thing. Seeing him will be shit but there's no need for him to know. Act like his presence doesn't affect you and you'll be suprised how quickly it becomes a reality.
Good luck x
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Rating: 5
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You're right about this list. I've already made up a new screen name and I'm starting over. As hard as it is, I can't keep trying to see what he's up to. Again, thank you.
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