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i'm Brittany and though I'm only 14, I'm really good at the psycology of teens. I usually don't use the answer "you should go to a counsler" or anything similiar to that. Although that is a good idea in many situations, I tend to realize that most teens have thought about that and most of them refuse to talk to a counsler about it. If you want a straight up answer without all the "you shouldn't have done that" talk, let me know.
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im 13/f and ive been getting really close with this guy in my grade, like friend ship close. and hes been opening up to me and told me he cuts and i cut to. so weve been talking and im really afraid and i want to stop him from cutting but i dont know what to do.. any suggestions??
oo and theres another problem with this guy.. people have been telling me that we should go out because we talk on the phone for hours and we know each other inside and out, but hes hung up on this one girl like really really hung up on her but shes totally wrong for him and we both know that. is there any way i can help him get over her?
(by the way, i have never cut. i just know alot about this stuff because my friends dad is a psycologist and many of my frinds cut. =])
Its nearly impossible to stop a person from cutting. Beleive me, I've tried it several times. Everytime I give it a try, they can't stay clean for over a few weeks. Ive noticed that the main reasons for cutting are: family issues, friend issues, or bf/gf problems. He can't really even decide that he doesn't want to cut anymore. Once he starts the habit, whenever something bad happens, he will allways know that cutting is an option.
But there is a way you can help. Try to keep him away from negativity. Same as yourself, you should also stay away from negative things. Even wearing black can contribute to a negative outlook on life. If you have a more positive life, your mind won't need emotional support from cutting.
I don't think it would be very good to have a boyfriend that cuts as well as you. Two negatives only make a positive in math. (lol, yeah, a stupid joke i just thought of). What Im trying to say is if you 2 go out, you will always be miserable because 2 sad people together isnt the best thing. by the way, just since your friends say you two go out doesnt mean you have to. Decide for yourself if you like him. Also remember that with love there is heartbreak. This might ruin your friendship once you 2 break up. Keep that in mind.
- but, to get him over her, just be more flirty with him. This will distract him from her.
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thanks alot.. have u stoped cutting?
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