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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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Please help! SORRY...THIS IS REALLY LONG, BUT I NEED HELP!!
There is this bratty girl at my school who is like my worst enemy. She is like trying to steal my boyfriend. The other day I caught her blowing kisses to my boyfriend when I wasn't looking. (he wasn't looking either)...Then she is always talking to me and saying "I was with your boyfriend yesterday and we did this...." She always scuzzes me off in the hallways. When this other girl liked my boyfriend a long time ago, she was spreading rumors about her around the school. I was talking to my boyfriend about it, and he said "i don't like her, i swear...we are just friends"....i believe him too, he has never lied to me.....so i know that he doesn' like her, but i am 100% positive that the bratty girl does like him...she has even told me. I am totally sick of her trying to steal my boyfriend... what should i do??
*on so many levels*

You need to talk to her, even if you have already, because she obviously hasn't gotten the point.

First off, don't be mean. That won't get you anywhere, it will only bring you down to her level and make you look as bratty as she is.
Also, violence isn't the answer. I know you've heard that many times, but it's true. Slapping her won't make you look good.

Make sure that when you talk to her that you aren't around other people and that she isn't in a foul mood.
Be confident in what you say. Make sure you have the right body language. If you say something but you're looking down and avoiding eye contact, she probably won't take you seriously.
So when you talk to her, stand up straight and maintain eye contact.
Say something like, "Hey, _____ (her name), I've noticed that you've been flirting with my boyfriend. I'm sorry, but it's not right that you're flirting with him because he's taken. Please stop."
Make your voice firm, but don't yell. Yelling makes people defensive, and she probably won't listen to you if you yell.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) Thanx so much! That was really good advice!
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