I am a 20 yr old guy, people call me logical and i look at myself the same way. I have been told i give good advice so i thought i would give it a try. I can give advice on pretty much anything, frienship, dating, emotional problems, health problems, pretty much anything. i dont however take any interest in answering questions like what should i buy a green shirt or a blue shirt. serious problems only. I like to help people, its a good feeling when someone likes what you have told them. and that is why i do it.
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hey ok im 17/f this is kinda complicated well lets just say im stuck... well ok about 3 weeks ago i saw my x from when i was 16 and we went out about a year back then we never had a serious relationship we only kissed but i grew to love this guy so much.. and we broke up when we moved into sixth form i missed him so much and out of the blue 3 weeks ago he texted me saying do i wana come round so i went to his house and we started kissing, hugging each other and this time i really felt a connection we was kissing with emotion and he told me he loves me and that hes missed me for a year. now he does not seem to communicate with me much.and if he does he does not say he loves me anymore!! i told him i am afraid when he goes to uni of losing him and he just said.. its inevitable we will break up.. i don't know what to do now some of my friends say to leave him alone and he will come to me when he is ready but then again will he? ohh and when i was at his house he said he will do anything for me and he ended up stripping but i didn't so i saw his penis alittle bit..but we never had sex and we never did anything. so what i am asking is what shall i do now???? he says he loves me but he can't love or be loving at this time in his life!!! help.. someone plz (link)
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there is no easy answer for you i am afraid, he is obviously not ready for a commitment. This is a time when you just have to leave it alone, let him know how you feel but that you cant wait for him forever. If you are meant to be then you will be if not then you must do as we all must do move on. Its a hard fact of life but its the thing to do, when something doesnt work out cut your losses and move on. You cant make him love you and you cant pressure him into doing anything all you can do is let him know how you feel and that you will be there for only so long. You sound very intense and if that is the way you act towards him your probably scaring the hee bee g bees out of him so chill out and live your life. Dont focus so much on him after all he is the not the center of the universe, with all things considered you are the center of the universe so focus on your goals and your life. One thing a lot of young people have is their bf or gf is the most important thing to them and that is really not how it is supposed to be. Good things come, they are not forced. in some things and this is one of them, take time to get away from your day to day surroundings when you get the chance and think everything through and think towards the future and try to piece together the puzzle of your life and see just where he might fit in. remember he needs to fit your puzzle, he is not the ENTIRE puzzle. good luck
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