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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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Ok, to start off, I've been dating my bf for almost seven months now. Things have been on and off with us, becuase we fight alot about stupid stuff. He is over dramatic and over reacts, and I try to hard to resolve it and get angry easily. Well after our four month anniversary something happened. He dumped me the day after prom for another girl. He cheated on me. And the two weeks that we were apart and broken up were hell. I missed him even after what he did and I tried moving on with another guy I had liked but things weren't the same. Well then out of the blue he called me on my birthday adn we ended up getting back together. I decided to do something I never would've done in the past. Give someone a second chance. And it was good for a while. But the past scars you in obvious ways. I'm constantly scared he will cheat on me, I don't trust him, and because of that we fight. Plus he is being incosiderate now and we are fighting again. Well this guy I have liked for 2 years is in the picture now and he is always there for me. We have been friends for a while and I don't know what to do. I really like him, he likes me, and I don't feel happy with my bf. But something keeps holding me back. I still love my bf, but I don't think things will work out. What should I do?

This relationship lacks two of the things that a good, healthy relationship needs: trust and respect. You don't trust him because of what he did, and that's understandable; it's his fault for doing that to you. Also, the fact that he's being inconsiderate shows you his lack of respect for you.
If I were you, I'd break up with him. You gave him a second chance, and he messed up again. It would be for the best in the end; you won't have to deal with the pain and drama of that relationship anymore.

About this other guy- I wouldn't go out with him immediately. Give yourself time to get over this relationship before you bounce back into a new relationship. This guy will understand; he seems much better than your current boyfriend.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice. My bf is currently acting overly nice and is trying to get me a job at his work, when I didn't even want one there!
I think he knows something is up and is trying to keep me close at hand. I'll be sure to note your inbox if I need more advice. Thanks a bunch!
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