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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on? (link)
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Sounds like he's so insecure about himself he makes himself feel better by focusing on your bad points and criticising you. That would not be a fun relationship to be in.
If you like you can talk to him about the fact what he says upsets you and encouraging him to be a bit open about his own insecurities but in the case of people like this you generally find yourself bashing your head against a brick wall.
People like this piss me off far too much for me to make much of an effort but presumably there's something good about him for you to like him so perhaps it's worth a try. NOT at the expense, however, of your self-confidence.
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Thankyou for your good advice, it really helps!
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