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Q: I Had this friend Taylor, we met eachother when in the fourth grade. Taylor is really fun to be around, and really pretty. I always felt bad being around her, but our friendship was always so great. Will when middle school came my parents divorced, and i had to go to another school then the one Taylor's gone too. We were friends into the 6th grade the whole year we talked everynight, we had a few sleepovers. Her parents ending up divorcing too, and that it made it harder to have sleepovers, but we Always talked on the phone, always. Then i got into the 7th grade, (would be the grade im currently in) we were friends, for awhile.. then around halloween last year (still in 7th grade) we stopped talking, she blew me off for our halloween plans because i never answered her calls, but it wasent as if i was being rude, i wasent home and she knew it.. She knew i had family issues and i went away for the weekend, but i made it back intime to go with her. And she blew me off. Then our every day phone calls became, less and less and they just stopped all together. around christmas (last year) she called wishing me a marry and christmas, and she also said "Your probably mad at me" in the phone call. which i got 2 weeks after christmas due to, i wasent home for christmas i was away on vaction. I felt bad and wanted to call back but i have nothing to say to her, i really want our friendship back. But i dont know if she wants it back. and she doesnt have a computer, so theres no way i can just AIM her. And im way to shy to call.I'd have no idea what to say.. I mean what if her mom picks up the phone or something?
Also note were both Female, and 13.

UPDATE:
I'm terribly sorry that she didn't want to continue your friendship, obviously she isn't worth it. I don't want you to feel bad, you did all you could do, and you don't need anybody like that in your life. I'm very proud of you for picking up that phone, and for expressing your feelings. You can consider me a friend. :D

If she's that special to you, pick up the phone and call her. Don't let pride get in the way, and loose her, you'll regret it for a looong time. Trust me, I speak from experience. I haven't talked to my ex best friend in 2 1/2 years, and I still cry at night, wondering what went wrong, what happened between us. I wish I would have done something about it, instead of just letting it go. The more time passes by, the harder it will be to do something about it. If you keep thinking about what you should do, next thing you know it'll have been so long, you figure what's the use now. Don't let that happen! Swallow your pride, ask her what went wrong, at least then, if it turns out you guys still aren't friends, at least you can say you tried, you wont have this feeling of unfinished business inside you.

Trust your heart, do what you feel is best, and good luck with whatever you choose, and let me know what happens. :)

Rating: 5

I called her. She doesnt wish to contact me.
I said to her all my feelings and she didnt feel like our frienship was anything. its tuff, but now i know.

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