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Hey. :]
Okay to start out with, I have this friend named Shannon. I wouldn't really consider her a friend, because in the past she's really pissed me off & she's just not someone whom I can relate to. But, I still hang out with her, I don't like getting on bad peoples' sides. I'm always so nice to her, but sometimes she'll take it over the edge and yell at me about something so ridiculous & I just snap, but that happens to everybody.
Well, basically today this kid named Gordon that we had just met yesterday went up to Shannon and started physically pushing her around, and stealing her backpack & "strangiling" her. In front of every body at school, he'd literally just throw her up against the wall & it really scared me. Yesterday when I first met him he kept touching me physically just like around my stomach & butt and I felt so uncomfortable. I told him that he should leave me alone because I hate whenever people do that crap. But he tried to do it again today!
I left Shannon while she was getting pushed around by Gordon, only because she was laughing about it, and I thought it was all a big joke. I came back like 5 minutes later and couldn't find Shannon anywhere! Or Gordon, so I started to get worried. I eventually found her 15 minutes later hanging out with some people that would like protect her from Gordon, and he left. She's never ever came to me for anything, or ever told me her feelings before. But, she seemed so worried about Gordon like touching her & stuff and started asking me, why I left her. & She was explaining all the things that had happened.
I'm really pissed now, because Gordons really made me mad. I've never seen Shannon so mentally disrupted in my entire life & she won't stop talking about it. Of course I care about her now because of all of this. Tomorrow I'm going to see Gordon & I just want to know what I should say. I don't want to be too mean but then I'm going to have my good guy friend there with me, so if anything goes wrong or if he starts touching us again he'll get his ass kicked.
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you need to be very firm and serious with him, tell him you do not ever want to be touched that way by him and neither does your friend and if he continues to do so you will report him. Seriously it's not wimping out getting some sort of authority of your school involved. Just have a quiet word with a teacher tellig her what's going on and take it from there if it doesn't stop.
Some people just have no sense of physical boundaries but since you already told him you dont like it he just sounds like a bit of a creep who needs to be kept under control.
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I completely agree. This is the best advice given. You got straight to the point & I really appreciate that. You didn't just go on about how important it is and that I NEED to go to a counselor or the principal. I talked to him the other day -- I sorted some things out, but he's not exactly taking the hint. Thanks SO much. :)
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