I live in Central Wisconsin. I am married and we have two daughters. In 1997 I earned my degree in psychology from the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. In my spare time I study psychology and philosophy.
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Location: Stevens Point, WI
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Age: 35
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Well, I was born in Europe and then I moved here in America. My family and I had to start all over again. My parents had to find new jobs, buy a new home, cars and everything. Now, we're living life like normal people and we have more then most people.
Neather of my parents went to collage because thier families couldn't afford it back thenI love my mom to death but I feel like she's working soo hard just to make us happy. My dad had a great job and he's very happy with it but I feel so sorry for my mom. She cleans for a living.. I know it's sad but I feel so bad. Sometimes I just wish I was more supportive and that I didn't argue with her so much because she works SO hard for us & at times I can be ungrateful for the things I have but I always want more.
Since she didn't go to collage, is there any way she can get a new and better job. She always talks to me about how she just wants me & my brother to do good in school and someday that we will be very succesful. I don't want her to wake up everyday for the next 20 years going to work and clean! I want my mom to be happy just like we are and not have to do what she hates for the rest of her life.
I try to be a great kid and not argue and help out but I'm just a regular 14 year old teenager and it's normal to fight with parents but after that I feel soo bad and sorry for her.
Any advice on this? I get tears in my eyes just thinking about her. I want her to be happy and do something that she loves. I want her to get a better job but that seems to be hard for her. (link)
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Many paths lead to happiness in life. Perhaps your Mom doesn't have the greatest career, but it sounds as if she isn't counting on her job to give meaning and happiness to her life.
Rather, she is counting on her children for that. For her, working hard and earning money is worthwhile if it provides the opportunity for you and your brother to achieve more than she was able to.
The key phrase in your description is, "She always talks to me about how she just wants me & my brother to do good in school and someday be very successful."
That is how you can help her be happy. She lives for you and through you, which is not uncommon for parents, even the ones with wildly successful careers.
You are a wonderful daughter and your Mom is very proud of you. Just keep doing what you're doing, and everything will be fine. You have a good heart, and your mom is very lucky to have a daughter who loves her so much.
Dr. Chad
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Thank you so much. You really did help me.
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