Oh man- I felt that way all the time in highschool!! (Mostly sophomore and senior year.) I couldn't understand how I had such great friends and how we had such a blast together in class, at play practice, etc. but why when breaks came I never heard from them unless I did the inviting.

I finally talked with my best friend about it and her honest to goodness response was: "You feel like no one ever calls YOU? I feel like no one ever calls ME!"

I talked to a few of the other girls about it and basically it all came down to this: We each felt like everyone else was out doing so much more than we were, so if we were ever bored or home alone we just *assumed* we were the only ones ever in that situation. Also, we each spent time feeling like we were the ones doing all the calling and inviting but not getting that favor returned when really: it was a lot more even than we thought.

It might be like that for you too. Have you talked to any of your friends about this? It's possible they are so happy for your company that they don't realize you want to be sought out the same way you seek them out. They might not see you as someone that could feel bored, left out, lonely, etc. because they see you as someone everybody likes so how could you possibly be stuck with nothing to do?!

I think the best option for you is to talk to one or two of your closest friends about the way you feel. See what their perspectives are since they know you, your school, your other friends, etc. better than anybody at Advicenators ever could.

Thank you so much. You understood exactly what I was trying to say, and I felt like you knew exactly how I feel. I am giving you a 5, but I can only tell you I wish there was something much higher, because your answer was incredible. Thanks, much! Happy New Year girrrl. :]

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