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I have a girlfriend, let's say Jane. We've only officially been going out for two week, but we were going steady for about 2 weeks before that (making out all the time, not seeing anyone else but each other). Last week I met a new girl, Steph, through a friend. She is really cool and as this past week went by, I realized I like her more than Jane. Because I have a gf though, the friend that introduced us decided to try to hook my other friend up with Steph. I kept my feelings quiet to give him a a chance (he's never had a gf). He really likes her now. Just tonight Steph and I were talking and she told me she likes me more than my friend, and that she doesn't want to keep leading my friend on. I told her that I liked her too. Now I don't know what to do. Should I break up with Jane and date Steph, or break up with Jane and stay single for a while? Or should I just suck it up and stay together with Jane so my friends don't get mad at me for "invading" on my other friend's girl possibility? Either way someone's going to get hurt. What's the lesser poison?

Well, you have to do it in a way that doesn't make you look bad and hurt other girl's feelings. It's perfectly understandable you don't like "Jane". But, it would be really jerky to not only break your gf's heart and then invade your friend's territory. Even if Steph likes you and temptation is telling you to just ditch Jane and go out with Steph, you can't.

While Steph might act like she just wants to go out w/ you right now, it would be good to prove yourself to her and show her your a good guy and break it off easy with your gf and wait a while before you date someone else.


let her take the time to tell the other guy she's not interested. Then you can go out w/ her later.

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