I live in Central Wisconsin. I am married and we have two daughters. In 1997 I earned my degree in psychology from the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. In my spare time I study psychology and philosophy.
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A friend of one of my friends recently commited suicide, and it's really taking a toll on my friend. (Let's just call her Jane haha) So I've tried talking to Jane, but every time I try to comfort her or w/e she says something really rude or just turns away. I know she's grieving, and I'm trying to tell myself it's nothing personal, but what she's doing is really hurtful. How should I tell her how this makes me feel? Is it too early? (This happened just a couple days ago.) Can anyone tell me how I should try and make her feel better? Thanks. (link)
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Your friend might also be blaming herself for not being a good enough friend to see the suicide coming. If she believes this, then in addition to the normal grieving, she may be punishing herself by not allowing anyone to console her--since from her point of view, she wouldn't deserve to be consoled. If you feel compelled to say something, tell her it's not her fault, and then listen to what she has to say. She might have a lot to get off her chest.
Dr. Chad
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that makes a lot of sense... thanks!
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