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I'm in this advanced choir. There's this new girl who just joined. She's 13, like me, only she's a grade ahead of me (I'm a 7th grader). I have to admit, she's pretty good. Everyone knows that she's got this beautiful high voice, a little like Sarah Brightman's. She's a bitch! She's always flaunting her voice. During camp, we all had to watch this documentary on opera, and she goes "I bet I could sing opera..." Jesus! She's only 13, right?!!!! She had to share a bunk with me. She's was a disgusting bunk mate. She was always spilling her milk all over my papers, bringing food into the dorm, not eating it, and soon there would be moldy peaches everywhere. She can NEVER stop talking about herself. It's always me, me, me, me, me, my voice, my hair, and my boyfriend. Once she was talking about herself and says "my friend and I were watching the Phantom of the Opera and I could sing that really high note at the end of the song 'The Phantom of the Opera.' " She sings the note and asks "Can you sing it?" So I tried, and of course I couldn't, because I'm not even a soprano, and she goes "ha-ha! i can sing the high E and you're all strained up. That's hilarious..." and goes off into another monologue about herself. Now I have to sit on the risers right next to her, and she's getting worse. She's also a brownnoser. She's always sucking up to our choir teacher, and so on...what can I do to put up with her? I don't want anyone to say "talk to her about it." It's not like she's my friend or anything. (link)
Been there, done that, got the entire souvenir line. Are you involved in classical singing? They're the worst. If you continue in the singing business (or any performance work) you are going to come across people like this time and time again and if you're not careful they will chip away at your sanity piece by piece.

Some things to take comfort from:
1) If she sounds like Sarah Brightman, pity her for two reasons. For one thing Sarah Brightman does not have a nice voice. Sorry. She has a large range but the quality of her tone has me running for the hills. For the other she is unlikely to make a cvery big mark anywhere the singing world if she sounds like someone that's been heard before. She would need to be distinctive and fairly incomparable to make a splash.

2)Spend as little time with her as humanly possible. If she brags in your company try not to let her see your annoyance- your bordem will insult her more. Depending on your personality you can act vague and dreamy as though you are not listening to a word she's saying or vaguely distainful. (I find the later a lot more fun)

3) She is probably pretty insecure at heart. People who find it necessary to go around bragging about themselves are generally looking for approval from others to confirm they are worthy people. From your brownnoser comment this seems likely.

If she tries to involve you in these petty "I-can-sing-higher-than-thou" competitions again refuse to be drawn in. Tell her she knows perfectly well you are not a soprano and enquire why she hasn't been taught that your ability is not defined by your range(for some reason it's mainly sops that think this- you never hear tenors or altos competing over who can hold the lowest note).

If all else fails offer her choclate and fizzy drinks before a performance and watch her voice crack and thicken *evil grin*

Best of luck, I feel your pain.


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