about

advice

My aunt passed 8 months ago. Her and I just so happen to wear the same size clothing. About 4 weeks ago, my uncle brought over some of my aunt's clothes for me to go through and pick out what I would like to keep. He gave the clothes to us, so I'm not pressed for time to decide because we don't have to return them or anything like that, but my Mom has been rushing me to look through them so she can clear them out of the basement. Thing is, I don't want the clothes. It's not that they're unappealing to me. It's that it would just be too emotionally upsetting to have them. I really don't want them, and I'm firm in my decision. My mom views it as, "perfectly good clothes", and since they're free, she might be a tad bit mad if I didn't accept them. Don't get me wrong, I've very thankful for the offer. But I just don't want to look like a total jerkface to my unlce's family. *Do you think it would be rude of me to refuse the clothing?

I honestly don't think it would be rude of you to deny the clothing so long as you thorougly explained your reasoning. Tell your mother that it is not about the appeal of the clothing, rather the emotions that it will evoke. Say your getting ready for school, and all the sudden you pull on that sweater your aunt wore this past christmas...it might take a lot out of you and make you upset. Describe it in this way and remind your mom that those physical things are not what your aunt should be remembered as...explain all the real memories are in your heart where they should be.

[view]

(Rating: 5) Wow! This was beyond helpful!! Thank you very much for supplying your time and effort. I apologized for the late rating, but perhaps you'd like to know that (since it's six months later) the clothing ended up going to victims of the hurricanes in the south. Again, thank you sooo sooo soo much!!!! (:
<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker